So I’ve been a reader on psychology and related topics for a long time and I happened to be lucky to stumble upon this topic quite a while ago and it was related to manipulation.

If you’re a normal human being that’s relatively healthy emotionally, I don’t mean you’re perfect or anything like that but you’re a decent human, right?

There should be in most cases no need to ever manipulate anyone if we’re not in a seriously shitty situation. I mean if we’re talking a normal relationship with another human being and not a war or anything.

So the idea is the following;

There is absolutely no need to manipulate anyone, authenticity is enough. If you’re a decent human who has like said a healthy view on reality and other things, which I am assuming you have, you being a reader of mine after all.

I write my content for normal humans and I try to help my readers with problems they’re having along with just writing for the enjoyment of it, as well as doing this business thing so I guess, providing my audience with valuable and entertaining insights and things about life.

So maybe you’ve noticed this but those who manipulate others are actually crazy in a very specific way.

Because if you have a need to manipulate someone and be deceitful, that implies that there’s an underlying problem with it.

So the ideal situation is that you being your authentic self is completely enough and you’re just you and that’s the end of story. There is no need for manipulation and lies.

But this comes with something that I’ve kind of come to realize about the metagame of being this online philosopher/idea giver.

This is the realization I’ve had; It’s actually a big responsibility to give advice to others and even just say your ideas out loud, because there might be people actually reading, listening and taking my advice to their hearts. So I have to come at it from this angle now to say that you should always follow you intuitions, no matter how silent they might be. I personally think that we usually know the right way to act in life, and we know our own situations the best so if advice on the internet is in conflict with what you’re intuiting for yourself, I would go with the intuition about the thing and just ignore the advice, no matter how well it’s presented and how much of an authority the person is.

Anyhow

So yeah I just wanted to say this really quick that it’s really these deeper truths, philosophies we can use to make better decisions and become happier and more effective humans as a result. But how much can a writer really say?

I just want to add that you really do know yourself best in the end after all, I have never talked or met with a reader or a follower of mine.

Hell, all I know is that in the internet it just might be that as I am writing this, maybe just two people read this during it’s first few weeks. But who knows during my whole career how many people are going to take my advice?

Because I’ve taken advice before and done what the Guru tells me to do and then everything goes to shit, because you need to be wise and trust your inner compass I think.

Sometimes I’ve been absolutely convinced that a thing I am doing is wise and a good decision only to realize further down the road that it was a bad choice even though a Guru said it’s the right way to do or a good way to think about things.

Even if the Guru has positive intentions, still taking advice online might backfire. I don’t mean to scare you but always double check when taking advice and I feel like this is a real skill to develop that can be difficult, to be honest.

I really like when we look at people in this way;

We might think;

“This guru knows a lot but he doesn’t know everything, he is human and he might be fallible to some biases.”

I think people who are very convincing and in positions of authority and they talk like they know a lot should always be looked through a lens of “Where is this authority/guru being misguided?”

Like, every time you listen to someone, you should have in the back of your mind 100% that this person might still be wrong about a lot of things.”

For example there’s many people who claim that psychedelics are drugs and not useful for purposes of healing the soul, spiritual development and are not conducive for a positive life.

I disagree with them due to my extensive experience with psychedelics.

This is just one example. Some of my favorite people sometimes say stupid shit, and in general are deeply wrong about things, I think.

I feel like due to the nature of the subject, which is that I am talking to you right now through the internet, only makes this un-intentional misinformation a lot worse.

I feel like if you’re dealing with someone in person, you can more easily see if they’re wrong, although not all the time.

This is why I’ve came up with the following technique which I want to share.

It’s to think of everyone as small babies that are now grown adults but still are a lot like a newborn baby. I mean, we are all ignorant in some way. I am not saying it’s a bad thing, I just mean it’s very related to being a human is to be completely wrong in a huge way.

There’s a lot of smart, smart people out there who don’t think before they post or say something online. That’s why it’s so important to develop your own knowledge and actually have an open-minded attitude about absolutely everything, including things that make no sense like astrology, religion, etc.

Like said, many smart people are so, so wrong about many things and they go on preaching these things as if they’re true and I know that we tend to trust people we like and we really would rather just give them the authority instead of doing the hard work of figuring reality out for ourselves.

So always keep in mind that the most smart, knowledgeable and kind person you know might be completely misinformed about some things and even say that he or she knows exactly what he or she is talking about, when they actually have no clue about what they are claiming to know.

It’s not that people are evil or bad or anything, people are just human and it’s the most human thing to be wrong about things.

And I think the truth is cool since being wrong is completely okay, there’s nothing wrong with it either.

So everyone is allowed their not-knowingness.

The Guru Might Not Know It

And to add, good people act like shit sometimes. I know I’ve done it in the past, especially when you’re going through some hardship or are feeling wronged in some way, you tend to go to the level of a child, even if just for a moment, and act all crazy and foolish.

The Guru Is A Fool

So this is the thing. All Guru’s are fools. Including you and me. And that’s okay.